Episode Notes

Learn how to overcome busyness, start meaningful conversations, and build lasting adult friendships that enrich both your personal and professional life. In this episode, Stephanie Everett talks with Kat Vellos, author of We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships, about practical ways to form new connections, deepen existing relationships, and create a sense of community. You’ll discover strategies for moving beyond small talk, making the most of your time, and using Kat’s four “seeds of connection” framework to help relationships thrive. 

Kat shares research-backed insights on why friendships matter for well-being, how to integrate connection into your daily life without adding more to your to-do list, and ways to authentically connect with neighbors, colleagues, and acquaintances. Whether you’re looking to expand your circle, reconnect with old friends, or foster deeper ties in your professional network, this conversation offers actionable ideas you can start using today. 

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Stephanie Everett

Stephanie Everett is the Chief Growth Officer and Lead Business Coach of Lawyerist. She is the co-author of the bestselling book The Small Firm Roadmap Revisited and co-host of the weekly Lawyerist Podcast.

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Kat Vellos

Kat Vellos

Kat Vellos is the author of We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships and the creator of the Better Conversations Calendar and BFF Builder. A former UX designer for major tech companies, she now helps people foster meaningful friendship and community in environments not built for connection—which is most of them. Her work also champions urban design that supports social cohesion through walkability, third places, and everyday opportunities for connection. Kat’s writing is read in over 100 countries, and she’s been featured by The New York Times, NPR, Communication Arts, and The Good Life Project. 

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Last updated August 14th, 2025