The idea of accountability is touted across all areas of self-improvement. Need to exercise? Have a workout partner waiting for you at the gym so you’ll be less likely to bail. Dieting? Do it with your partner, so you can commiserate about the missed calories and encourage each other over Thanksgiving. Budgeting for the first time? Have a monthly budget meeting with an accountability partner.
It sounds like a great idea to have someone to whom you are held accountable, but how does it work if you are a solo lawyer?
How It Helps to Have an Accountability Partner
Having an accountability partner as a solo lawyer can be useful in a number of ways. Exactly how it can help you depends on where you need accountability and how you implement the idea.
If you find yourself missing deadlines in your daily practice, you may need an accountability partner to whom you report on upcoming deadlines and when you have met them. Your partner can give you a nudge when deadlines are impending.
Perhaps where you need to be kept in check is setting routine tasks on a schedule, such as monthly billing. Your partner could be someone you sit down with each month at billing time. Your accountability partner might actually help with your billing, or maybe it’s enough just to have to do it while they hang out in your office or work in another room.
For some solos, the daily grind runs smoothly, but the business is stagnant.If you have ideas you want to implement, your accountability partner can be someone you count on to keep you honest about meeting milestones when working towards turning those ideas into reality.
Where to Find a Partner
For solos, one of the biggest problems we face is where to find people we can count on. We are naturally isolated, and sometimes being in our heads so much makes us believe that no one else out there is doing or thinking the same things.
First, realize that is not true. If you would like an accountability partner, you can bet that plenty of other people you know would love one too.
Second, reach out to your network to people with whom you feel comfortable being open and honest. Accountability does not work if you are going to sugarcoat the truth. If you missed a deadline or are about to, you need to be able to tell your partner about it. Keep in mind that this person does not have to be another lawyer, and in fact, they may not even understand your business. As long as you can be honest with them about what you need to do and whether you have actually done it, they can be a useful partner.
Third, begin the conversation. Ask them if they have a problem area or a goal they would like to achieve, and inquire whether they would like you to help them by being an accountability partner. It is a great two-way street.
In the time that I have used accountability partners, they have been my spouse, my best friend, and colleagues I do not know well but who share similar goals for their practices.
Methods of Madness
Once you identify the goal you want to achieve and find a partner, how you implement the plan is up to you. Here are some ideas that I have used or seen others use:
Princess of Power Model
Harkening back to She-Ra, the Princess of Power (and twin sister to He-Man), this brazenly stolen idea (from my co-clerk of many years ago) has been wildly successful in my life. It works best as a daily ritual for your everyday to-do list.
Each morning, send your partner a list of what you intend to accomplish that day. As the day goes by, mark off your list and send it back to them with items marked done, and your partner will do the same. Seeing each other accomplishing what you set out to do is inspiring. For it to be successful, you must actually send the list each morning and keep up with the tasks you set out to do. It can help push you to do more than you might otherwise when you see it all laid out. The new sharing feature on the Notes app on the iPhone is great for this. You can even use radio buttons to allow you to tick off tasks as you accomplish them, and the list updates automatically on each other’s phones.
Team Organizing Software
If the tasks are larger, longer term and multi-step, software that allows you to lay out goals, timelines, and information related to the tasks can be very useful. Basecamp 3 is one such tool. In order for this to work, you have to pay attention to the software and continually check and update it. It is only as useful if you use it.
Sometimes you do not need an ongoing check-in with a partner, but instead just need to know you will be publicly humiliated if you fail to meet your goal. Fear of public humiliation is what keeps some runners pushing ahead of the minimum pace in races to avoid being picked up by the bus. It works.
Using social media in this way recently worked for me. I participate in an online community of like-minded solo lawyers, none of whom I know particularly well but several of whom I have met and shared practice-focused discussions. I posted for all to see that I had failed to get something done which I had sworn I would do. I promised this large group of people that I would have it done by a specific date and asked them to hold me accountable. People responded with general encouraging comments, but the ones that really got me to do it asked pointed questions like “It’s 24 hours until your deadline; how is it going?” and “What tasks remain to be done?” For me, feeling forced to publicly answer spurred me to make my task list, feel embarrassed to post that I hadn’t finished, and instead accomplish the tasks so I didn’t have to admit how many items remained. By the time I posted my response, I had done them all and beaten the deadline.
The type of social media where this can work includes any limited-scope group such as the Slack community of which I am a part (from TBD Law), a Facebook group, or even a group of friends. I would not recommend this method for an entirely public social media outlet, though some may disagree. I have certainly seen weight loss and fitness goals posted publicly on Facebook.
Don’t Shy Away
If this all sounds too collaborative for your solo mindset, give it a try anyway. You may find that it becomes you more than you realize, and if not, nothing is lost.